This is for my friends who’ve just gotten out of their relationships. There are a few things I want you to know about how I think of you:
1. You’re strong.
Like, not in the muscular “I can lift more than 10 lbs. on the tricep machine” strong (but if you can, HUGE props. That shit’s hard.) More in the, you’ve got enough guts to put yourself in an uncomfortable situation, put your loved ones in an uncomfortable situation, and invest in your own happiness, strong. That takes strength and I don’t know how many nights or minutes you spent debating your choice, but ultimately you flexed your soul muscle and made one. And whether or not you’re happy right now at this exact moment, you took a risk. You’re strong.
2. You’re growing.
You’re spending your summer learning things that you couldn’t have even anticipated you’d be doing, one year ago. That is a fact. You’re like living in foreign locations, working with amazing people who are teaching you bunches, and taking down mental notes of how you want the next year to be like.
You’re changing and it wouldn’t be right for you to go backward. So if you find that you nostalgia for your former bf is taking you to pre-you periods, stop for a second and fucking look forward. To where you wanna be. What that is. And how much it fucking has to do with YOU and not HIM.
3. You’re hot..
Maybe this is just a coincidence that my friends are all goodlooking human beings, but you’re most likely pretty hot. Most likely, your brain is hot, your legs are hot, and your butt is pretty hot too.
ENJOY this hotness–this value that you add to the world. People are happy that they get to spend more time with you, and that you have more brain space to focus on them. They want you so bad 🙂
4. Don’t worry, you’re not missing any pieces.
I know for a while people have identified you as one half of a unit. And it’s sorta like losing a leg now that you’re not in a relationship anymore. You’re not sure how people perceive it; you’re not even sure if you like this new loneliness.
Like I told my wonderful friend in an emergency text, you’ve just been wearing a cast on your leg for the past year+. Now that it’s off, your skins all tender and paler than the rest of your body and it’s awkward. People are looking at you weird. You have a limp. Well that’s not gonna last forever. A little movement and time will do the the trick. And guess what, you can RUN again. You’re the fucking Little Mermaid after she’s popped legs on. So GO. DANCE. It’s gonna be uncomfortable at first.
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