Hedge your own worth

It’s hard for a self disrespecting person to start respecting themselves. If you think about it completely strategically, it doesn’t make that much sense to put a whole lot of value on your own worth if there isn’t proof – historical and projected- that you’re actually valuable.

I’m going to use a very one-dimensional example to illustrate- say no one has ever fallen head over heels in love with you before – infatuation/love being one of the largest measures of human worth that I can think of – , so how can you confidently assign worth to yourself and be like “Yo I’m awesome and lovable.”?

It may be a huge leap of faith for someone to start believing that they are attractive, smart, charming, etc.┬áThis explains why, when people don’t want to take that treacherous leap of faith, they seek out temporary proof from external sources. Obvious examples of that are one night stands, I guess.

Stripping the self-respect process down to its true form is super helpful, though. For me, this hypothesis indicates that in order to reach point X: self respect, person has to take step 1. large leap of faith. All other pathways are fake ^_^

 

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